How We Got Here

I thought my first post should be on how my husband (Sean)and I got to this point in our marriage.  I was like any other young married women who thought that getting pregnant was gonna be easy. I figured I would get pregnant within a couple of months of trying.  However 3 1/2 years later and thousands of dollars worth of fertility treatments and 1 surgery we were no closer to growing our family.  It was a hard decision to decide to stop fertility treatments.  My husband and I went over all the what ifs: What if 1 more treatment was the one that worked? What if we just took a break and then restarted treatments? What if we still didn't get pregnant after all that? And countless more thoughts and ideas.   So with the final decision made to stop treatments and focus back on us as a couple and our marriage the baby talk turned to adoption.  I started doing fact-finding on domestic and international adoption. Even though I did some research on domestic adoption I always figured that we would end up adopting internationally. So...after several months of researching countries and adoption agencies we settled on our short list.  

So with the decision to adopt set in place Sean and I began talking about how to tell our family and friends.  Very few people knew that we were experiencing infertility. Actual the majority of all of our friends and family didn't know about it. We did not know how our families would react to finding out that we were unable to conceive and that we're going to be adopting a child from another country all at once. We didn't want our child be treated any different because he/she was not biologically ours. We began testing the waters so to say by telling our closest friends who had been with us and supported us during our infertility. At this point we decided to tell everyone about the infertility and adoption when we had signed the contract with an adoption agency.  As I am writing this we have not told everyone about our adoption. Our hope is that this blog will help our family and friends understand our decisions to grow our family by adoption and keep everyone updated on the happenings of our adoption.